Being a single guy who’s had no luck in dating the opposite sex lately, I’ve found myself going on a lot of man dates. The most recent one was this weekend when we went to see I Love You, Man. In case you’ve been living under a rock, the movie (which was quite funny) is about a guy who goes on a series of man dates to find a new best friend. While there were a number of similarities between the movie and our relationship, my buddy and I didn’t talk about them because such things aren’t done on man dates.
I caught one of the stars of I Love You, Man, Jason Segel, on Fresh Air the other day and he got it right when he talked about male friendships…it’s tougher for men to make same sex friends as we get older, while women can go into the bathroom and come out with a new best friend. So it’s important for guys to hold on to and foster these relationships. In fact, it’s commonplace in many Asian cultures for men to hold hands to show affection. ***Easy joke alert*** This practice is also quite common here in San Francisco, but I’m not quite at that level yet.
Last ate: some rice pilaf
Listening to: An awesome rendition of “Stand By Me” by the international organization Playing for Change. I guarantee this will make you feel good.
I love you, man!!!
While I generally find your posts to be funny and fascinating, I have to disagree with your claim that girls make best friends more easily than guys, especially as we get older. Girls make acquaintances and fair-weather friends more easily for sure, but when it comes to finding a true solid female friend who is not crazy and won’t try to steal your boyfriend or flake on your girl-dates all the time, it’s much harder than it looks. Guys seem to bond over a myriad of things, like playing sports, talking about sports, watching sports, drinking, talking about drinking, etc. When a girl comes out of a bathroom with a seemingly new best friend, it is for one of only 2 reasons: either we instantly bonded over our mutual hatred of another girl in the bathroom (“I can’t believe how short her skirt is!”) or one girl complimented the other on her clothes/hair/shoes/makeup/etc. This type of bond is fleeting and quickly dissipates, unless both girls are single and decide to pass the time together until they get boyfriends. (I’m not really this cynical, just making an observation)
I love you Jobin